Integrity. Do you have it?
Integrity is a quality I evaluate in every energetic scan, because it’s critical to emotional and physical healing.
What is it?
As I evaluate it, there are four parts to integrity: Feelings, thoughts, actions, and speech. Do you exercise your personal truth in all four areas?
If you do, you’re living in integrity.
But what if I’m ill?
From my own experience of illness, I know how difficult it is to live in your truth when you’re ill, as many of my clients are.
The risks feel too great, particularly the fear of alienating our support group. When we’re ill, we often feel (and MAY BE) dependent upon others for our survival. “But if I did/said that, friend/spouse/child/parent/doctor might abandon me.”.
If we choose to think, feel, act on, and speak our truth, we must to be willing to take risks. We may need to renegotiate relationships. If we can’t reach clear understandings, we may have to let them go. Ultimately, those relationships are toxic to us, and help to keep us ill.
There’s no fault here. We co-created those relationships. We and they made (usually) unconscious agreements not to be truthful for our and their own reasons.
But when you get to know yourself – and what your truths ARE—you begin the journey to your best self. Once begun, it’s more painful to turn back than to move forward, challenging though it may be.
You’ve no doubt known people with integrity, and you begin to want it for yourself.
What does Integrity look like?
People with Integrity are who they appear to be. They keep their word. They do what they say they’ll do. They assume responsibility for their lives. They can be counted on. They speak their truth, even when it isn’t popular.
Oh, did mention that living in your truth may not make you popular? If you haven’t been living your truth, don’t assume that people will embrace you immediately when you do.
You may need to choose new relationships with people who live in their truth. Those relationships feel clear and clean. They lack the nagging resentments fostered when integrity is lacking. People with integrity deal with and resolve conflicts in the open.
How to Start
I suggest that you let the people you really care about know that you’re “working on yourself,” or something similar. Tell them that you want to be a more honest person, first with yourself and then with others.
You may be awkward at first, so you can warn them of that. Then you can laugh when you do something that feels awkward. They were warned!
You’re hatching. Imagine how funny baby birds look as they’re prying their way out of their shells. But those babies eventually fly, and so will you.
When a client begins to take the risk of living completely in the light of their truth in all ways, they’ve made a pledge to become their Best Self – a cardinal sign to me that they’ve taken a giant step toward health, physical and/or emotional.
The rewards are huge!
After integrity comes the ability to love fully—ourselves, then others. And that is our sacred mission on this earth: to Love.
I can help
Even if you’re not ill, and would like to help you with living in your Truth. I can help you with a Relationship Reading/Guidance consult, a service offered on my site.
Relationships—with yourself and others— reveal our triggers. They force us to feel/see the beliefs, patterns, and wounds that keep us from Integrity. It is also the first place we lay blame when things aren’t going right.
All of these relationships are our teachers. That’s why we choose them. When the lesson in a relationship is learned, we are free to choose whether that relationship still serves us. If it doesn’t, we can let go with love and move always closer to our Truth.
That’s walking the path to Integrity.